A doctor friend came up with the term 'Internet Intelligence' Short version, someone who doesn't have the scientific, technical or educational background reads something on the internet and says, "I understand this subject." No, you don't. Because if you did, you'd know why what you read on the internet is out to lunch.
In my line of work I have a similar problem in that people ask 'simple
questions' without having the background understanding. Specifically of
why, that's not a simple question. Nor is there a simple answer.
I was asked about a home invasion robbery and the guy asked how do you
know if the guy is going to use his weapon -- even after you've
complied. Simple question right? Should have some simple things to look
Short answer, it depends.
And huge parts of what it depends on
is what you do -- and more importantly -- DON'T do. Because your version
of 'complying' may involve you pogo-sticking on your dick.
Here is the long answer
The answer to this is in a weird and different direction than you might imagine.
Ever seen a movie where you know what is going to happen before it
does? Hell just for laughs, I used to predict when the standard clichés
in action movies would happen. Usually within 15-30 seconds of them
Some fast yada, yada, yada points. First, no reflection on your sex
life, but every night you go to bed with a human, a monkey and a lizard.
These are the three levels of your brain. The Monkey is your
socio-emotional conscious brain. It tells us how to act, how to behave
and what is expected of us given our social status. For the record most
'violence' comes from the Monkey http://www.conflictcommunications.com/
and this is very important for recognizing the presence of the Monkey
That's one set of background to help you understand this statement -- The Monkey LOVES stories.
In fact, scripted, roles, stories and predictable social rituals guide
an overwhelming majority of our interactions with other people.
Another yada, yada. Fundamentally there are two different 'types' of violence. Social and asocial.
Different types, different goals, different reasons. Social violence can
be broken into many different categories (rule enforcement, status
displays, monkey dance, educational beat down, etc). A simple, but
important concept is this kind of violence is over things you can't put
into a wheelbarrow. You can't put your pride, feelings or social status into a wheelbarrow. But that's what a lot of social violence is about.
Asocial violence can be broken down into two main categories -- resource
and process. Resource violence is either over gaining or protecting
tangibles. These are things that CAN be put into a wheelbarrow
Two critical points about both social and resource violence. One, they
usually come with instructions how to avoid it. These instructions are
simple and non-humiliating (although we often interpret them as such).
Take for example 'shut up or I'll kick your ass.' All you have to do to
keep from getting your ass kicked is stop talking. However, people's
Monkey often tell them that the best response to that is mention the
guy's testicles on his mother's chin. Notice this is NOT following the
instructions on how to avoid violence.
Two is that these 'scripts' are incredibly predictable. The problem
is most people don't know the script OR they try to apply another script
to the situation (this includes what I call violating 'the five'
Predictability in resource predation is easy. That's because the
criminal is operating along certain guidelines. Take for example in the
US, during the commission of a felony forcing a person to take even one
step is kidnapping. Kidnapping is as seriously prosecuted as murder. So
an experienced robber isn't going to tell you to go to a secondary
location. The 'script' for a robbery is he approaches, threatens you,
you give him the goods and he leaves.
Anything that goes 'off script' is where things can-and-do go bad. There
are however, two main ways things go off script and violence happens.
First is keep your fucking mouth shut. Your Monkey is going to want to
talk shit to this asshole to show him who he's dealing with and to get
your pride back. I know of no better way to get shot in the face than
lipping off to a guy with a gun. And if you think about it, you know
it's stupid. But, the Monkey will be screaming at you to do it.
Rory Miller is correct in his assessment of the Five are critical
elements in the de-escalation of social violence, but they don't work to
deescalate asocial violence. He is correct with his observation that
the five won't stop asocial. #1 Asocial violence cannot be deescalated,
it can only be deterred. #2 Violating the five WILL however, make
asocial violence much, MUCH worse. Want to know the fastest way to
provoke a robber to use his weapon? Insult him and show your contempt.)
The second way things go wrong is when the guy with the weapon starts
going off script. One of the absolute worse 'this isn't going according
to script' is telling someone to move to a secondary location.
Short version... no frickin' way do you let that happen. That's
kidnapping. And if he's going to get charged for that, why not...?
Which brings us to process predation. The 'other' asocial violence.
Unlike other types of violence, with process, violence IS the goal. With
the others, the threat of violence usually is way more effective.
Follow those instructions and no violence. With asocial, those
instructions are a lie. Asocial is the big bad monster everyone fears.
But in it's own way it's just as predictable and easy to spot when
that's what you're dealing with.
Final dada, dada. There can be overlap with these. A process predator
can be hiding his shit under the guise of social violence. Or he can be
hiding it in resource. It's how much of a 'mix' that is the important
thing to spot. Venn Diagrams can give you the idea of how they can
Home invasion 'robberies' are bad news. First, they're breaking the
script of how robberies normally happen. Second, they're already in a
secondary location -- a particularly isolated one. So you're a whole lot
closer to bad shit happening, not because you do anything wrong, but
Thing is home invasion robberies are the new and big boogie man --
especially among the shooting world. Many are pressing the idea 'you
need to have guns every where in the house.' One tacit-cool cowboy
really stepped on his dick by suggesting having a gun safe in the kids
room -- with reporters in the room. (I have a totally different set of
problems with this idea because, I don't believe in drawing fire towards
the people I'm trying to protect ... DUH!)
Copula's points about home invasions, yes they are really bad news. Yes
they do happen. And yes, they are a primed for shit to go really bad.
Oddly enough people who are most likely to have them happen are drug
dealers -- and this includes your kids doing shit they shouldn't be
doing. Then people from cultures/ ethnic enclaves that don't trust banks
or the cops (e.g. merchants who keep large amounts of money in their
homes). Then you get follow homes from the stores and nighttime
invasions. But for the average person in a nice neighborhood? Not that
And BTW, if you're really concerned, it's really easy and cheap to get a
camera/intercom/doorbell unit. Gee there's three dudes standing on my
porch... probably shouldn't open the door.
So how do you know if the guy is going to pull the trigger? Well the short answer is it's going off script.
problem is that most people don't have any other resources except to
follow the script. Or they fuck up and try to use social scripts --
including 'fighting'. Those are really fast ways to get the guy to use
his weapon on you.